Brandon Tyler Beshada

Happy Birthday Brandon
             

My deepest condolences.  May these few words from the Holy Scriptures bring you comfort in your time of grief...

John 11:32-45

32 And so Mary, when she arrived where Jesus was and caught sight of him, fell at his feet, saying to him: “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” 33 Jesus, therefore, when he saw her weeping and the Jews that came with her weeping, groaned in the spirit and became troubled; 34 and he said: “Where have YOU laid him?” They said to him: “Lord, come and see.” 35 Jesus gave way to tears. 36 Therefore the Jews began to say: “See, what affection he used to have for him!” 37 But some of them said: “Was not this [man] that opened the eyes of the blind man able to prevent this one from dying?”

38 Hence Jesus, after groaning again within himself, came to the memorial tomb. It was, in fact, a cave, and a stone was lying against it.39 Jesus said: “TAKE the stone away.” Martha, the sister of the deceased, said to him: “Lord, by now he must smell, for it is four days.”40 Jesus said to her: “Did I not tell you that if you would believe you would see the glory of God?” 41 Therefore they took the stone away. Now Jesus raised his eyes heavenward and said: “Father, I thank you that you have heard me. 42 True, I knew that you always hear me; but on account of the crowd standing around I spoke, in order that they might believe that you sent me forth.” 43 And when he had said these things, he cried out with a loud voice: “Laz´a·rus, come on out!” 44The [man] that had been dead came out with his feet and hands bound with wrappings, and his countenance was bound about with a cloth. Jesus said to them: “Loose him and let him go.”

45 Therefore many of the Jews that had come to Mary and that beheld what he did put faith in him;

Please go to the following link for more information regarding the Hope expressed in this passage

http://www.jw.org 

Dear Sandy, I'm very sorry to read of the tragic loss of your beloved son Brandon, and I want to offer my heartfelt sympathy to you. I hope that you'll find comfort in these verses.

Acts 24:15 promises, "that there is going to be a resurrection." Many tragic, unexpected deaths are due to what the Bible calls, "time and unforeseen occurrence that befall them all." - Ecclesiastes 9:11b

Our loving God doesn’t cause sad things to happen to our loved ones, as James 1:13 helps us to understand, ‘When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried by God.’ For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone.’”

2 Corinthians 1:3, 4 speaks of God as “the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our tribulation.” 1 Peter 5:7 lets us know that we can “throw all our anxiety upon (God), because he cares.” And Isaiah 65:17b tells us that the former things will not be called to mind, neither will they come up into the heart.” - Thus the heartbreak that we experience now, won’t even be remembered after Jehovah God resurrects our loved ones; thereby undoing the sad effects of death and the pain being separated from them brings.

Revelation 21:4 promises, “And (God) will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” - Just imagine -a world with no tears of sorrow, no pain, and no death! And no sickness of any kind as Isaiah 33:24 promises, “no resident will say: ‘I am sick.’”

Loved ones will be resurrected, and welcomed back to life by loving family and friends right here on the earth in the midst of peaceful, beautiful, paradise conditions, as Psalms 37:10, 11, 29 tell about, “And just a little while longer, and the wicked one will be no more; and you will certainly give attention to his place, and he will not be. But the meek ones themselves will possess the earth, and they will indeed find their exquisite delight in the abundance of peace. The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it.” - We can have the opportunity to live together forever in perfect peace, health, and happiness with our loved ones!

Jesus gave us hope of a time when all suffering will end. He taught his followers to pray: “Our Father in the heavens, . . . Let your Kingdom come. Let your will take place, as in heaven, also upon earth.” - Matthew 6:9, 10 - When God’s Kingdom comes, there will be no more suffering or death on the earth, just as there is no suffering or death in heaven!

I hope that you will find comfort in your memories, perhaps by looking at pictures. And I hope that these and other verses will bring you comfort, peace, and hope. Romans 15:4 tells us, "For all the things that were written aforetime were written for our instruction, that through our endurance and through the comfort from the Scriptures we might have hope.

And will you please look at the web site, www.jw.org as it offers much comfort that is solidly based on God’s Word the Bible, and it shares what has helped others to cope with their grief. If you decide to look at the site, when on the web site, please click on publications at the top of the page, then under magazines on the left click on ‘magazines’ and in Display box to the right where it says ‘latest‘; scroll to 2011 and click on search, and then please ‘scroll down 3 rows‘, and click on the 'PDF' format for "Coping With the Loss of a Loved One" found in the April Awake; and you’ll be able to open this magazine to read the article in its entirety. Three subjects are: "An Almost Unbearable Loss" "Coming to Terms With Death" and "Help for Those Who Grieve" This is one of the most comforting magazines that I've read and I hope you will read this article and find some comfort in what has helped others to cope with their overwhelming losses. And currently, the article, "Why is there so much suffering? When will it end?" is on the main page of the web site.

Take care,

                                                                                                                                                   Sincerely Yours,

                                                                                                                                                   Cindy Boyer

Hi Sandy, You have a lovely son and i am sure u miss him very much as the years go by, My Angel Brandon got his Angel wings on October 18th 2011 and next month his birthday is coming u on 16th April 2012, his 22nd bithday, i miss him so much and i can understand your loss. May god bless and give you the courage to go on. You have created a lovely website.

Hello Sandy,

After almost 30 years, I returned to the area for a visit and was looking up old friends and colleagues.  Tragically, when I came across your name I also found this site.  

There are no words I could possibly offer to fill the void of your loss.   just know that for the next 30 years that you and your son will remain in my thoughts and prayers.

Mike

Mike@mikeisrael.com
 

I was born march 21 1982.  I served in Iraq and Afghanistan.  I was injured and dealth with the pain Brandon was dealing
with.  Makes me wonder if the army docs are responsible for this loss. 

Brandon, happy birthday up there in Heaven! I know you are having a great party up there!! Please squish some cake in my Ant's face for me! lol I can't even imagine what kinds of gifts you could get...beautiful songs, rainbows or what? I have to tell you that the picture here is one of my favorites of you! You look so handsome in your uniform. I know you are one of God's greatest soldiers now. You are a very missed one down here. I know I don't have to even ask, but can you send your mom an extra great sign letting her know how great it is and that you are patiently waiting and enjoying everything til she gets there? She really misses you a lot and talks about you all the time. I sure wish I had gotten to know you before. I know you must have been an awesome person. I have really grown to love and care about your mom. How proud you must be of her. She is a dear friend, a wonderful person and I know she must have been an awesome mother.  Wrap your love around her and hold her close. She loves you forever and always....
Natalie

Keeping you in my heart, my prayers and on my mind all of the time, hoping you're doing as good as you can do and wondering if you're okay.  Much much love Sandy.

Hi Brandon,
I just stopped by to let you know that I was thinking of you today. You look so handsome in your uniform and so very proud to wear it. I know your mom is so proud of you. She is pretty awesome. Of course, I am sure you already knew that! Please send her extra signs because they make her happy and I love when my friend is happy.  Anyway, I know your busy up there and I won't keep you any longer. Say hi to my Ant for me and tell him to send me some signs too!!!  
Love, Nat.

Hi Sandy,
I came across your profile on Cory Despain's Facebook. I am so very sorry for your loss.
He looks like a beautiful child and I'm sure you are proud!
God bless you
XO

Brandon, Just letting you know you will never be forgotten.
Sandy I hope your doing well, Miss you lots
With love
Joe

Brandon, I thought of you and your beautiful mom all day yesterday... I hope you sent her lots of signs letting her know how brilliant your life has continued to be even though you are "living" it away from your Earthly family and friends. Please continue to let her feel your love, your warmth and your everlasting peace. She is a wonderful person and we have all grown to love her and to love you. You will always be on her mind and in her heart. I am remembering you always, Love, Natalie

Brandon , This is a very sad night for us all because you were called to Heaven after you went to sleep. If we all knew that then , we would have kept you up forever and held you tight and told you how much we love you and how your love and smile changed our lives forever ! We Miss You!

 

Dear Brandon,

I am thinking of you today as you celebrate your 28th birthday in Heaven. I truly wish you were here to celebrate your birthday with your beautiful mother.  Send her lots of signs today letting her know how majestic your new home is and how happy you are while you wait for her to join you. BTW, you better be ready because you know when she gets there she will hold you and never wanna let you go again. It will be funny though as we will then be like the children and you and Ant will be showing us how to grow in our new life. But until then, send her lots of signs so that she may be able to laugh, love and live with grace and honor til she is reunited with you.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BRANDON!!!

Love, Nat, Ant's mom!

                                          

 

                      

Beautiful memorial Sandy!!!  Brandon will always live on in your heart and the heart of others......God bless you...

You've done such a wonderful job here Sandy.  I can see and feel the love you the two of you have for each other in these pages.  There's so much here to see and feel and learn that a person can't take it all in in just one visit so I'm sure you'll be seeing a lot of me on here.
Brandon must have been such a joy to you and you so proud of him as you have every right to be. What a blessing to be as beautiful on the inside as you both are on the outside.
Thank you for sharing him with us.  

I just want you to know that I watched the videos of Brandon today.  I came across your website through Facebook (we have a mutual friend in Visha) and the Book of Remembrance.  I lost my son in 2007 also.  He was 26.  I miss him every single day.  I've been missing my son so much and know just how much you miss Brandon too.  Anyone else might apologize for saying these things and bringing up these memories, but I won't.  Because I know in my heart that you'll be so excited to know that someone looked at Brandon's website and remembered him today.  Someone thought of him and someone sent love to him and to you today...because I'd be feeling the same way.   I wanted you to know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers because I understand your feelings.  Peace & love to you and your family.

 

Much love,

Sheri Kyle

Your site is beautiful and your Brandon is a handsome man. Our prayers go to you and your family.

Hugs,

 

Kerri

New Orleans Louisiana

Sandy,

 You honor us all by putting our children's Pictures on Brandon's web-site-he has to be so proud of his Mom-Just as I looked at Paul's Picture a butterfly flew across it(which is what I have tattooed with Paul's signature above it)-I'm sure they are great buddies ! Love to you and Brandon! Dee 

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Brandon.  I completely understand the pain and devastation that you are feeling.  I will keep you in my heart.  You did a wonderful job on Brandon's page and reading everything brought tears to roll down my cheeks.

Brandon looks so beautiful and strong! I can feel his mom's pride in him from across these pages. I am so sorry for your loss. I know deep in my heart and soul how much you miss him and how you will never be the same. My prayers and thoughts are with you. May some days give you a smile, or a warm feeling, or just a brief moment of peace.

Brandon,
As you are now an Angel in Heaven I thought you would be the perfect person to come to. Please send your mom an Earth Angel. Someone to understand, hold her while she cries, someone to just let her grieve you.

She misses you Brandon, she misses you deep down to the core of her being and she will for the rest of her life. When we have children, it fills up a space in our heart and our soul. When she lost you, she lost a piece of her heart and soul. She can fill a small area in the void left behind, but she can never gets those pieces back. Those pieces, you took to Heaven with you filled with her love.

She talks about you alot and I feel like I know you so well. She did a great job raising you into a fine young man. I know you are proud of the hard work that she did to give you such a wonderful life. And like you, we are very proud of the work she has done since you left.

But she needs someone that she can connect with in person. Someone that understands and will give her that hug she needs and tell her to cry all she wants, it will be okay. She is a really special person to us all that have gotten to know her and love her.

Thanks in advance for your help. I know that you only want whats best for your mom, as you always have. Give my Anthony Paul my love the next time he breezes by you as I am sure he is just as active up there as he was down here.

I am keeping you, Anthony Paul and all our Earth Angels in my prayers,
Love, Natalie, Anthony Paul's mom forever

Dearest Sandy:  My prayers and blessings to you dear one.  It is hard - it only "softens"  it doesn't

get easier but we cope better.  I know that's not a comfort but it's all I can give.  God bless you honey always.

Dear Sandy,

I am so very sorry for your loss of your precious beloved son Brandon. My broken heart weeps for you... I understand your deep pain and suffering and how alone you feel each and every day.  I know how difficult it is to go on...

I too am alone since my only son Aaron was brutally ripped from me, it is a daily stuggle and nightmare... Aaron was my best friend too... it's so very hard!

Please know that you are in my prayers and close to my heart and in my thoughts.

Much Love & hugs

Steffi Aaron's Mom forever

What a beautiful site you have created for Brandon, it just took my breath away.  I am so sorry for your loss.

Dear Sandy,  I am so sorry for Your Great Loss of Your Sweet Son Brandon, and my heart aches for You, and I am teary-eyed after viewing Brandon's Website.  I am sure Brandon(Who was an Army Man)  has met my two Sons Brian and Tim, (who were both Marines) who I lost in an Auto Accident together on 3/22/0l.  The Loss of a Child or Children puts a Forever Wound in our Mom Hearts and Minds, until one Day we get to see our Sweet Child again when we to pass in Heaven, and once again get Big Hugs from Them.  Hugs to You and Your Sweet Boy Brandon.  What a Handsome, Loving, Caring Young Man and Son he was and is. (((((((((((((Sandy & Brandon)))))))))) Thank you for sharing the Beautiful Website You have Created with so much Love for Your Sweet Son Brandon.  It is so Awesome.  Love and Prayers, Pat, Mom of Brian and Tim in Heaven (with Your Son Brandon) and Sean on Earth.

My thoughts and prayers are will all who love and miss Brandon, especially his very loving and devoted Mom. I came across your precious angel's site by accident after a spelling error, although now I think I was lead here perhaps by our two boys. Brandon was certianally a very handsome young man, he captured my heart and I can tell clearly how much he is loved by the many heart touching memories, candles, condolences and poems. This page is an amazing tribute to your precious Son which ensures that his memories will live forever.

My heart broke when I read Brandon's life story and I could not contain my tears the ending sounded so very familiar.

To Brandon's mom my heart goes out to you, I found myself in a very similar situation, My son had returned home not feeling well and asked me to check on him. Just like you my Troy was snoring so I naturally assumed he was sleeping. When I returned a while later I knew there was something wrong, I tried franticaly to revive my Son until the ambulance arrived. He had an aneurysm. It is so very hard and I often wonder and like you so many what if's, I blame myself although I know its not my fault there was nothing I could do. The only comfort I have is knowing that my precious Son got his angle wings at home. 

I wish that there where some words I could say to ease your heartache, I feel your pain every day, I pray that you find some comfort knowing that others care and will remember your handsome angel.

Edwina Mitchell ~ Mum to Troy Mitchell 

 

On 4/3/08 I found your note that was attached to the balloons that you released this year. It was found in Brooklyn,NY. Please be assured that we all join you in prayer for Brandon. God bless you!

Sandy, I hope this comforts you just a little.

When I am gone, release me, let me go.

I have so many things to see and do,
You mustn't tie yourself to me with too many tears,

But be thankful we had so many good years.

I gave you my love, and you can only guess
How much you've given me in happiness.

I thank you for the love that you have shown,
But now it is time I traveled on alone.

So grieve for me a while, if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust
That it is only for a while that we must part,
So treasure the memories within your heart.

I won't be far away for life goes on.

And if you need me, call and I will come.

Though you can't see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear
All my love around you soft and clear

And then, when you come this way alone,
I'll greet you with a smile and a "Welcome Home".

With Love
Joe Scarpaci

Brandon,

Just wanted to stop by and tell you Happy Valentine's Day in Heaven. Send your mom lots of signs and Angel kisses!! She misses you so much! Let her know that you are okay and bring your family in to support her while she needs it.
Love, Natalie & Anthony Paul

Angel Brandon,

 

Please visit your broken-hearted mom in her dreams. Let your love light the way as she must continue on this dark journey without you. Allow her to see visions of happy times in the falling snow as she searches for you at the window. She misses you so much and often must grieve for you alone. And though, she will never understand or get over your leaving, she will keep loving you and honoring your memory. Send her lots of signs and lot of Angel kisses.

(((((((((((((Sandy & Brandon))))))))))))))))

Natalie Camp

 

 

Another beautiful soul taken too young.  I'm so sorry for your families pain, especially your mother. Parents should never have to say good bye to their children.  I know you are in a bettter world where all of us who have lost children long to go.  God bless your soul and Love to your family.  Jackie

Sandy,

    You have a very handsome son, May God hold us in his arms until we can be with our boys again...But as the song that is playing says will will be together again someday..

                                                         Carol

                                                        Mom to Bradley Lanch Clifton

                                                         sadley missed never forgotten

                                                          you will live forever in my heart

                                                          cause a Mother's Love never dies

A Bereaved Parent's Wish List

"I wish that Brandon had never died"

I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak Brandon's name. My son lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that he was important to you also.

If I cry and get emotional when you talk about Brandon, I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. Brandon's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about Brandon and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.

Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.

I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about Brandon.

I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that Brandon's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these things through a phone call, a card, a note, or a real big hug.

I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over. These first years are going to be traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my son until the day I die. My grief will just change.

I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss Brandon and I will always grieve that he is gone.

I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be happy". Neither will happen for a very long time.

I wish you understood how my life has been shattered. I know it is
miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable.
When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay, and that I struggle daily.

I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.

Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice.
However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.

Please excuse me if I seem rude, it's certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.

I wish you understood that grief changes people. When Brandon died, a big part of me died with him.

I am not the same person I was before Brandon died and I will never be that person again!

I wish very much that you could understand ~ understand my loss, my grief and my pain.

But....
I pray daily that you will never understand!

Sandy,

What a hansome young man. I can truely see the pain you are in for the loss of your son through all that you write. May God bless you and carry you through this terrible time. I am feeling much like you are with the loss of my daughter so I can completely understand your pain.

Lots of love and hugs to you.

Dede

May Their Light Always Shine
Children we remember
Though missing from our sight
In honor and remembrance
We light candles in the night...
We will not forget
And every year in deep December
On Earth we will light candles
As we remember

written by Jacqueline Brown 

Submitted by Sandy, Forever Brandon's Mom

"There is no friendship, no love, like that of the mother for the child."
----Henry Ward Beecher

May I Be Excused

Dear God ,
May I be excused just for the day
from the lessons of life in this huge classroom
where we live and learn?

I am finding the lessons of this earth too hard to learn.

Just for the day, can I stop to rest in a quiet place
and lay down my head.

As you know, I have lost my son,
and the role is too hard for me to play on this day,
the words spoken are false
my face is a mask, and my smiles are fake.
The only truth I see is love, and that I find hard to see today

So please, God
may I have this day
just for me
no worries
no lessons
no pain
just my inner peace that's been missing for some time.

Please God may I be excused.
Just for the day?

 

written by Trevor Romain
submitted by Sandy, Forever Brandon's Mom

Dear Sandy:  This road of grief is hard, long, filled with potholes and

treacherous.  We travel it because we have no choice.  I do believer our

sons are still here with us.  We just can't see them.  Geoff sends me signs

and it helps so much.  I didn't get those signs until my brain and heart and

soul were ready to accept them.  Our grieve causes us to "short circuit" and

we are so devastated we can't do anything.  Sometimes, getting out of bed

is the best I can do.  You are in my prayers.  May God bless and comfort you.

ANOTHER LONELY DECEMBER

..by Christine Ross in memory of Lucas Christopher Ross 1979 - 2001

Another lonely December,
Waiting for Christmas to pass,
Staring out through the window,
At the cold beyond the glass.

Dreaming of the years gone by,
And things I love to remember,
Knowing this life will always bring,
Another lonely December.

© 2004 - Christine Ross
submitted with permission by Sandy, Forever Brandon's Mom

Brandon,
I didn't really know you, as I sit here with tears in my eyes reading these pages, I feel I really did know you.
I knew your family, they are all kind and loving, and were all very blessed to have you in their lives.
Your mom is very special and will always have a place in my heart.

Sandy, I am so sorry for your tremendous loss. Your son was, or shall I say is a very handsome man. I know you had to raise him for the most part on your own, at least in his younger years, I have to say you are an inspiration and a tower of strength. The love you two shared is obvious.
As I sit and watch the slide show, I think back at all the wonderful memories, I can see you with your big belly, and how proud you were to be a mommy, I know over time we have grown apart, but our memories will never fade, nor will yours of Brandon.  Your a very strong woman, and I'm proud that you were once in my life.
Always,
Joe

Hello Sandy,

 

How wonderful to hear Brandon's voice.  I have to admit it took me awhile

to figure it out, but finially my brain understood.  I admire the fact that

you can listen to Brandon's voice.  It has been since April 13, 2004 and

I still will not watch a video of Kanda, do not want to hear her voice for

fear I won't be able to stand it, maybe someday. My husband watched

a video with her in it the day after she died and I thought I was going

to have a come apart even though, while laying in bed, all I could hear

was her voice.

 

Sorry also, I lit a candle and messed up my signature, don't know what

I did.

 

Thank you for sharing Brandon's voice with all of us and Bless You and

You Family.  I know how tough the first Thansgiving is without your

precious son, I remember very well.  I don't know that I can say the

4th is any easier, but maybe acceptance it the word I am looking for

as the 4th Thanksgiving has come around for our family.

 

My dearest hugs to you, Blessed Friend

Dianna

Kanda's Mom4ever, Kanda4ever 30 years old

 

 

 

Dear Sandy,

 

I relate with you, I too have to carry this pain alone.  My family and his dads side just doesn't care.  Just another day, if not an imposition to take time for the funeral.  So unfair for the most precious and beautiful boy that ever lived.  I am not exaggerating, but I am sure you understand.  Garett had so much life and love for everything he did from the day he was born.  I also lost him this year in August.  I too spent the holiday alone, without him they just don't seem real.  I made it through yesterday, now if only I can get past Christmas.  Please know I will keep you in my prayers as I know how hard this is for you.  my email address is pcoffey55@yahoo.com.  If you just need to talk contact me anytime.